Actress Whoopi Goldberg knew her 1980s marriage to cinematographer David Claessen was doomed after he refused to help her clean up after their wedding. The Ghost star reveals she had already started having doubts about the relationship before she exchanged vows in 1986, but she refused to let all her friends and family down by leaving her then-fiance standing at the altar.
She recalls, "My mother once said to me, because she could see it on my face, that it (the wedding) was wrong and we all knew it was wrong. It was like I'd done this big, crazy thing. My mother said, 'Look, there's a car out the back, just get in the car 'cause you don't want to do this, I can see it on your face.' I said, 'Ma, we have spent all this money.' I couldn't do it to the guests."
But when her new husband turned his back on the mess in their home following their reception that she knew the union wouldn't last.
Goldberg explains, "I wanted to take care of my house because the house had been so trashed. I wanted to clean up (on my wedding night)...
"This is how I knew it wasn't gonna work. I said, 'Listen, do you see how much trash is here? We've gotta get at least some of this out and done so we can sleep in tomorrow...' He didn't want to do it... I would have (had sex) with him in the morning, all day (if he had cleaned up)...! Two year's later (we divorced)..."
Claessen was Goldberg's second husband. She was also married to Alvin Martin from 1973 until 1979, and later to actor Lyle Trachtenberg, who she divorced in 1995 after just one year as husband and wife.
She has since sworn off marriage, insisting, "Some people are not meant to be married and I am not meant to. I'm sure it is wonderful for lots of people."
The Ghost star split from first husband Alvin Martin in 1979 after six years of marriage and went on to wed David Claessen in 1986.
That union lasted two years and she later exchanged vows with Lyle Trachtenberg in 1994, before the pair divorced just a year later.
Goldberg opened up about her romance issues on talk show Piers Morgan Tonight on Wednesday night (13Apr11) and revealed to the British host that she has only ever loved one man in her life - and she never married him.
She says, "I suppose you have to actually be in love with the person you marry. You have to be committed to them. I don't have that commitment. I'm committed to my family. No (I wasn't in love with my husbands). It's the truth. I wanted to feel normal and it seemed to me if I was married I'd have a much more normal life.
"That's not a good reason to get married. You have to actually want a life with someone through ups and downs and I discovered that wasn't for me."
Goldberg refuses to reveal the identity of her mystery man, but insists it wasn't actor Ted Danson, who she briefly dated.
She adds, "(I was in love) once. A man. You're asking me if I was in love with Ted? Is that the man I'm talking about? No. No (you don't know him) and that's the beauty. I snuck a couple in on y'all! It was a long time ago. We talk all the time - he's got two great kids and a great wife."
And Goldberg insists she's not currently looking for love: "I never was much of a dater. I'm not a real go-out kind of person. I'm a singular person."
Bullock walked out on James in early March (10) after the TV mechanic was reported to have had an 11-month affair with tattoo model Michelle McGee last year (09).
Two other women have since come forward with similar claims, while a fourth mistress is also alleged to have been involved with James while he was married to the actress.
But Goldberg has called on critics to stop judging James until they've heard the full story from the man himself - because tabloid claims are not always so straight-forward.
And the Ghost star admits she could see why a spouse would cheat - just like she did when she was a married woman.
She confesses, "I did it (cheated) five or six times... Yes, I screwed around while I was married, yeah. I made mistakes too. It happens sometimes.
"Maybe he was trying to find something different too. I'm not excusing what I'm doing as, 'Hey, maybe there's something else to look at here' as opposed to just saying, 'Hey, he's a bonehead.' Maybe he just wanted something wonderful in his life (married a star) and couldn't deal with it. It's just a possibility, I know it's crazy."
Goldberg split from first husband Alvin Martin in 1979 after five years of marriage and went on to marry David Claessen in 1986. That relationship lasted two years and she later wed Lyle Trachtenberg in 1994, before the pair divorced just a year later.
The comedienne has been married three times - her first marriage to drug counsellor Alvin Martin ended in 1979; she divorced cinematographer David Claessen in 1988, and she was married to actor Lyle Trachtenberg for one year before they split in 1995.
The failed unions have prompted the Ghost actress to swear off marriage for good, and she's asked her friends to stop her if she ever announces plans to wed for a fourth time - because she's convinced it will be doomed.
She says, "If you ever hear of me walking down anybody's aisle again, I want you to stick your leg out and trip me. Some people are not meant to be married and I am not meant to. I'm sure it is wonderful for lots of people."