The Wrestler star wed Carre Otis in 1992 after they co-starred in movie Wild Orchid, but their tumultuous union was rocked by allegations of domestic abuse and the model/actress' heroin addiction. They divorced six years later.
In her new memoir, Beauty, Disrupted, Otis claims she only married Rourke because she was terrified he would kill himself if she turned down the offer - and the actor is unhappy with her allegations.
Rourke tells CNN talk show host Piers Morgan, "From what I've heard about it... It's probably kind of like a little bit of sour grapes, chasing the buck and a delusional, narcissistic self-centred point of view."
The actors wed in 1992 after co-starring in Wild Orchid, but their tumultuous relationship was rocked by allegations of domestic abuse and Otis' heroin addiction, which led to their divorce six years later.
In 2008, Rourke confessed he had never fully recovered from the split, despite their difficult partnership, admitting that he had resigned himself to a life of meaningless trysts because he would never be able to match the powerful love he had found with Otis.
He said, "I waited 10 years for her to come back... I won't compromise. Carre was thunder and lightning. If I can't have thunder and lighting then I won't have anything. It'll be a one-night stand here and there, but I'm not going to compromise. I can't."
Otis reveals she was furious with her ex's comments because she had just started a family with her second husband, environmental scientist Matthew Sutton - but her anger soon turned to pity because she realised the only person Rourke was hurting was himself.
Appearing on U.S. newsman Anderson Cooper's new talk show on Tuesday (11Oct11), Otis says, "It (Rourke's comments) was totally inappropriate. I'm a wife and a mother of two little girls today and I have done so much work (to heal emotionally) and that was so long ago. And for me it just felt like, really a testament to his evolution, and (he should) just let it go.
"His star (in Hollywood) is rising and it should rise, and he doesn't need to bring up a bunch of old stuff. It doesn't benefit him; it doesn't serve him well to carry that baggage any longer."
And Otis insists she has nothing but praise for the achievements he's made in his movie career.
She adds: "I'm thrilled with Mickey for his success... Everybody deserves success, everybody deserves happiness... We all deserve to heal and get well and that comes from a really genuine place in myself."
Otis and The Wrestler star had a tumultuous relationship and many were surprised when she agreed to become his wife in 1992, but now, in her memoir, Beauty, Disrupted, the actress admits she only wed Rourke because she was terrified he would kill himself right before her very eyes if she turned down the offer.
In an excerpt, obtained by the New York Post, she writes, "I left Mickey in Miami (Florida) to pursue his new boxing career... But I wasn't really surprised to get a call. I gave in. Just like that... On June 25, 1992, a limo picked me up in Los Angeles and drove me north up the coast to Big Sur. Sure enough, there he was, sitting on the hood of a tricked-out '69 Road Runner hot rod.
"'Otis... I... I don't know what to say. I love you. I miss you. I need you. I... I want you.' He was stammering.
"'Mickey, you really f**king hurt me. I don't even know why I'm here. Other than that I love you, too. But love... it shouldn't hurt like this.' I was emotional. My lip was trembling. I was trying not to cry. Before I knew what he was doing, he got down on one knee. 'Marry me, Carre,' he said.
"'Jesus, Mickey. Wait. I haven't seen you in months!' I was starting to feel panicked. 'I need time, some time to think about this.'
"'No. You answer me now,' he said firmly. Standing up, he went to the back of the car and opened the trunk. 'I can't live without you,' he said again, pulling out a long sword wrapped in beautiful Japanese cloth. 'What's that?' I asked.
"'It's a hari-kari knife,' he replied, unwrapping it. The long metal sword caught the afternoon light. Mickey stared into my eyes. 'Answer me or I will die.'
"Was he serious? I wasn't sure. I was terrified. I waited a beat. I recognised his standard my-way-or-the-highway ultimatum in all this, but it was tinged with a threat of a different kind this time. I heard myself say, 'Yes, Mickey. I will marry you.' Mickey and I were married the next day, June 26, in my hometown of San Francisco (California)."
The Wild Orchid star wed first husband Rourke in 1992 and in her new memoir, Beauty, Disrupted, she admits she nearly lost her life when the actor's gun, which he carried for safety, discharged and sent a bullet whizzing into her chest.
And Otis admits she kept the terrifying incident a secret for years so as to not attract bad publicity.
In an excerpt from the book in the New York Post, she explains, "We were almost at the restaurant when I looked down and saw a .357 Magnum on the floor near my feet... Mickey parked the car and leaned towards me, his voice soft but firm. 'Otis, remember, it's for our protection. I am sorry, though. I'll talk to the guys about putting these things away.'
"What I didn't know was that he thought it would be a good idea to stash the gun inside my bag."
The couple ate dinner and returned home, where she then put her purse down in the kitchen.
She continues, "I slung my bag off my shoulder and tossed it onto the counter. Boom! A tremendous noise reverberated through the kitchen... And just then I noticed that everyone was staring at me, their eyes widening. I stood there, suspended in time. My head reeled. I began to sway slowly from side to side... I looked down at my bluejeans, my white shirt, and my black leather jacket. What was this strange red puddle flowing out around me in an eerily perfect circle?
"I looked back up at the guys, confused and bewildered... I gasped, and then a wild scream erupted from me. The gun in my purse, the one without a safety, had discharged the second I'd slung my bag onto the counter.
"I wailed. It hurt so much to move. 'This is a nightmare. Clean this up!' Mickey was agitated. I could tell he had grave concerns that the would press would get wind of the incident. I panicked, wondering which was more important: my life or covering up the fact that I'd been shot with Mickey Rourke's gun?"
"I had been hit with a hollow-point bullet. It was a miracle I was alive - never mind alive with my arm still attached to my body! The bullet had entered just two inches from my heart. The police questioned me, but no charges were filed."
The Wrestler star has slept with several of Hollywood's sexiest women, including Terry Farrell and Carre Otis.
And he boasts his way with women makes the alleged cheating by England soccer star Ashley Cole on his pop star wife Cheryl Cole look innocent.
He says, "Forget Ashley Cole, his behaviour has nothing on a film star. WAGs (wives and girlfriends) get an easy time - they should try living with Hollywood hellraisers. I once spent a weekend in the U.K. and had 14 women in one night.
"British footballers have got nothing on us when it comes to women. If you WAGs knew what Hollywood's stars get up to you'd think you were married to pussycats."
Rourke is currently dating Russian model Elena Kuletskaya. Girls Aloud singer Cole announced her split from her husband last month (Feb10) after he allegedly cheated on her with five women.
The Wrestler star was rumoured to have proposed to a woman named as 24-year-old model Elena Kuletskaya, with plans to marry her in Moscow next year (10).
A source told the New York Post's gossip column PageSix: "They haven't booked a venue or made any solid plans. He just knows he wants to do it in April, and he's been asking what is involved in a traditional Russian wedding ceremony."
But Rourke's spokesperson has dismissed the claims and has used the opportunity to set the record straight about the actor's new partner.
The rep tells GossipCop.com, "Reports of an engagement are untrue. Mickey's girlfriend is Ana Makarenko."
Rourke has been married twice before - he divorced Debra Feuer after eight years of marriage in 1989, before marrying Carre Otis in 1992. They split in 1998.
The Wrestler star is currently dating 24-year-old model Elena Kuletskaya, who is teaching him to speak Russian for his upcoming role as a Soviet villain in Iron Man 2.
He sparked speculation the couple's relationship had stepped up by treating Kuletskaya's mum to a special day out in Los Angeles earlier this year (09) - and now they are preparing to walk down the aisle in April (10), according to New York gossip column PageSix.
A source tells the publication, "They haven’t booked a venue or made any solid plans. He just knows he wants to do it in April, and he’s been asking what is involved in a traditional Russian wedding ceremony."
The actor has been married twice before - he divorced Debra Feuer after eight years of marriage in 1989, before marrying Carre Otis in 1992. They split in 1998.
The Wrestler actor endured a tumultuous relationship with Wild Orchid star Otis, which hit an all-time low when Rourke was arrested in 1994 for spousal abuse, two years after the pair wed.
The charges were dropped after the former couple reconciled, but Rourke and Otis failed to save their marriage and their divorce was finalised in 1998.
And even though he's set to star alongside Hollywood beauties Megan Fox and Eva Green in two forthcoming films, Rourke won't ever be tempted into a romance another movie star.
He says, "I don't want to live with an actress again, no matter how they look. I'm working opposite Megan Fox and Eva Green next, and I'm certainly not complaining. But I'll tell you, once bitten..."
The actor made a triumphant return to the big screen last year (08), with a starring role in The Wrestler, after more than a decade struggling with drug addiction and alcoholism.
Rourke also battled through a messy divorce with actress Carre Otis in 1998, following a turbulent relationship.
But the star is thankful he was surrounded by supportive friends, who helped him through the bad times.
He says, "A lot of those who let you down are those who seemed the closest to you. They're the ones running out of your house with the silver when it all goes wrong, and when they jump ship that hurts. There are some people who stuck with me: Sly Stallone has always been a good friend to me. Stevie Jones - he's a good man. Mick Jones, Paul Simonon and Joe Strummer - God rest his soul - from The Clash: they were my guys. And we had a great time."
And Rourke has found a new pal in British actor Jason Statham, after filming scenes together for their new movie The Expendables.
He adds, "I just did a few days with Jason Statham on Sly's new film and he's become a good friend."
Rourke has been married twice, with his rocky union with Carre Otis ending in December 1998.
The actor has shied away from long term relationships since his last divorce, preferring to spend time with his beloved pet chihuahuas instead.
But Rourke is now back on the dating scene and looking for a lady - and he's decided to start his search in Britain.
He says, "I’m looking for an English wife. I’m looking for a house over here. I need a boxing ring though and a full-sized gym. London’s like my second home.”