D.J. Tanner was a generation’s cool big sister. She dated rock stars, stuck with the quirky best friend most people didn’t get, and used more hairspray annually than any other teenager in San Francisco. She was a good girl, but she was independent — as rebellious as anyone could have been in the tamest family sitcom of the decade. So what would a grown-up D.J. Tanner think of her alter-ego’s sketchy marriage philosophy?
Candace Cameron Bure appeared on HuffPost Live to discuss her new memoir/housewife how-to guide, Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose. The conversation quickly dug into one of the book’s more controversial pieces of advice. Bure advocates for women to take a “submissive” role in their marriages, but insists that she means it in the “Biblical” sense. “It is meekness, it is not weakness.” Oh, meekness! That’s … not at all better. Bure states that she has opinions, but that her husband, hockey player Val Bure, always makes the call. So bascially, the secret to marital bliss is that only one person is allowed to have opinions that actually matter. To really drive the point home, she reminds us that it would be bonkers for a couple to trade off who gets to pick the take-out place on Friday nights, because we only have one President, duh. You remember our President, that completely independent ruler who certainly doesn’t have to work alongside two other separate yet equally powerful branches of government? Civics!
What if D.J. had let Steve make all the final decisions in their relationship? They’d still be living in Danny’s house, having people over for sandwiches on Thanksgiving, and being those weird, childless people who attend high school football games for fun. Donna Jo Tanner never would have let that happen, and we’d like to think that she wouldn’t give the time of day to anyone who’d imply that her wants and desires could never be asserted for fear of complicating her jock boyfriend’s life.