Rocker Courtney Love has confirmed her near-20 year war of words with Dave Grohl is over after meeting up with the former Nirvana star at the band’s recent Rock & Roll Hall of Fame induction. Love and her late husband Kurt Cobain’s bandmate have battled publicly over the rights to Nirvana songs for years, but she reveals they got a chance to call a truce at the Hall of Fame gala last month (Apr14).
She tells Pitchfork.com, “On my way to the bathroom, I saw Grohl, and Grohl saw me, and he came up to me… I was like, ‘Alright, no matter what happens, we’re not going to be b**ches’. That was my attitude going in, and obviously his. Not much else needs to be said. We just both knew it was time to let it go, and we were ready to do it.
“It’s been 20 years. We didn’t even talk at the funeral. None of us. And so… 20 years of Dave bashing, and me bashing and making it worse, all that s**t. The legal stuff, the trial. We just buried it. It was really deep. “It brings tears to my eyes to even talk about it. There were certain lawyers who called me tearfully and said it was the most moving moment of the night. There were some hecklers who booed me, which was weird and off and scary. I ignored it. I just looked at who was on stage and was like, ‘Ah, f**k it!'”
And she admits she even liked Grohl’s idea of asking Lorde, Kim Gordon and St. Vincent to join the band onstage at the ceremony, even though she initially couldn’t understand why the drummer had invited women to front Nirvana for the night. She adds, “Initially, I thought it was sexist, and a little bit ghettoizing. But then I was like, ‘No, Kurt would have loved this’. And there’s reality to it. Apparently, no high profile dudes wanted to do it. “The Kim Gordon moment was so punk. Kim gave the punkest performance, the one that Kurt would’ve approved of the most. It was the punkest thing the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame has ever seen. I was really proud of that. It was truly a celebration of the spirit of what was subversive about In Utero (album) and (producer Steve) Albini, and what remains punk about Nirvana.
“Me and Kim, we’re not BFFs (best friends forever), but I was getting my hair done recently, and my hairdresser said, ‘Kim Gordon was asking how you were, she said to tell you hi’. I was like, ‘Really? We don’t really talk, but tell her hi’. So we’ve kind of made peace through our hairdresser.”