"This role is me and I don't know why. Sherri Saum, who plays my wife even though we're not legally married, we've been together for 10 years on the show, and... I have more chemistry with Sherri Saum than any man I've ever played the wife or girlfriend of in 27 years. It's just real." Meet The Fockers star Teri Polo on playing a lesbian in Jennifer Lopez's new TV drama The Fosters.